Fear isn’t a childhood issue
We think of fear as a childhood issue. Being afraid of the dark. Yet fear is relatively rare among children. They often exhibit courage and resiliency in ways which make us adults shutter.
No, I am convinced fear is an adult problem. I believe it is because the older each of us become, the more responsibilities we attain, the more we perceive we have to loose.
I also believe this is why our Father dealt with this subject in the bible so often. I texted a friend tonight that I had a tough week spiritually. I was feeling disconnected from the Lord. And when I step back, I see the fruit of disconnection. Fear. I simply get afraid that my life will no longer be good. I get afraid of losing all of the stuff I enjoy. I get afraid that I will no longer be regarded as an important person who is doing life well.
There is simple transformative power in the presence of God. My friend recommended I listen to a worship song. In the simplicity of the presence of God, I immediately became aware of how quickly I revert to fear.
I know on Father’s Day this probably isn’t the best, most manly post. To admit to weakness and frailty. However, I think I can speak for most of us men, at least those who are honest and have chosen to shoulder all the necessary responsibility it takes to successfully navigate relationships and family, that fear is a very real emotion.
It lets me know why so many of us men get quieter as we age. We are actually getting more courageous and wise. We look to our families and understand the propensity toward fear, and simply put our game faces on. We are lifting heavy weights. Shouldering great responsibilities.
So, if you encounter a successful guy, have any respect for him, understand he is staring his fears in the face and finding his own ways to walk out life courageously. For me, its downloading a worship song at just the right time or confessing to a friend. Respect these guys. Their courage is protecting everyone close to them.